There’s a lot of talk about building walls in Harlingen, Tx. lately. There are walls everywhere whether it be physical or mentally!
There’s a lot of talk about building walls lately.
But the truth is, walls are everywhere.
Your house or apartment has a wall.
Why?
To keep people OUT, right?
Every University in this country also has a wall.
It’s not a physical wall, but it’s a WALL.
It’s called admissions.
For example, you can’t get over Harvard’s wall without meeting certain standards.
A 2.4 GPA isn’t going to cut it.
You will be OUTSIDE of their academic wall.
Why does Harvard do that?
To protect themselves.
Because if they let anybody in, it devalues the campus.
Why?
Because a Harvard diploma would lose value if students with a 2.4 GPA would be let inside.
So, a wall is built.
It protects the community of Harvard.
Because that’s what walls do—they protect.
SOME PEOPLE ARE AGAINST THE IDEA OF PUTTING UP A WALL BECAUSE IT’S RUTHLESS.
What do I mean by “ruthless”?
It’s a brutal word with negative connotations, but if you’re not ruthless in this world, you put yourself at risk.
When I was 25 years old, I was a drug addict—and basically, my life was a mess and I dragged others around me down.
My mom was ruthless enough, smart enough, and loved me enough to say, “Don’t come here anymore.”
Black or white. It was crystal clear and I couldn’t cross the line.
She put up a WALL.
And I was out.
People in your life need to become a black and white issue.
They are either on your side, or they’re not.
Just because I was born in the same house, just because you are my mommy or daddy or uncle or aunt, just because we went to the same school, just because we were friends back when—it doesn’t mean you’re on my team now.
BUILD YOUR WALL.
You got people out there who are completely against you.
Tell your Uncle, “Dude, you’re out”. He’ll say, “But I’m your uncle—I helped raise you”.
Tell him, “Yeah, but you’re out now. You did a good job raising me, but you’re not doing a good job now—this doesn’t work anymore. Either get on my side, clean up your own life, quit talking bad about me, quit telling me about how my dreams are dumb, quit telling me that I can’t move or leave or do things, because you’re either on my side or you’re not—it’s a black and white issue.”
It’s not about friends and family, it’s about who are your friends and family now.
You are either on my team or you aren’t.
You need to write a list of all the people in your life. Make two columns, IN or OUT.
They are either supporting you or they are not.
If you got adult children in your house who aren’t doing the right thing, kick them out. Let them grow up. It’s not the kid making a mistake coming home, it’s the parent that lets them come home.
Don’t have open borders where anybody can come in at any time, and do anything they want.
If you tell someone that they aren’t allowed in your life until they get their act together, they’ll be enraged.
Walls tend to do that to people.
They’ll tell you that you’re ruthless, but believe me, I’d rather be called ruthless than “nice”.
“Nice” used to mean the village idiot years ago.
Nice people don’t want to put up a wall because it’s exclusive, not inclusive.
But nice people also get run over because they don’t stand up for anything.
Stop being nice to please someone else and start making yourself happy!